{"id":4779,"date":"2024-02-05T17:49:54","date_gmt":"2024-02-05T16:49:54","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/alertinsight.ch\/2024\/02\/my-scam\/"},"modified":"2025-11-27T11:22:38","modified_gmt":"2025-11-27T10:22:38","slug":"my-scam","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/alertinsight.ch\/en\/2024\/02\/my-scam\/","title":{"rendered":"My Romantic Scam"},"content":{"rendered":"

It\u2019s important to clarify at the very beginning that I am not sharing my story for anyone to judge me, but so that people can see the psychology behind the situation, which is ruthlessly exploited by the perpetrator or perpetrators.<\/strong><\/p>\n

It\u2019s necessary to understand that when my story began in September 2023, I was in a very bad place both mentally and physically. I wasn\u2019t well. Despite my efforts to get my life together, I faced walls everywhere as a newly relocated foreigner in Switzerland\u2014whether it was language barriers, cultural differences, or the stigma I felt when I mentioned I was from Hungary. This was my baseline. Mentally, I had no idea what to do with myself. I was cleaning our new apartment, setting up our new life, but I felt like I was left alone with all my problems. I didn\u2019t dare talk to anyone, because I had only two options: either go home or explain why I was staying in Switzerland. Physically, I cried a lot, missed my period due to stress, struggled with insomnia, lost weight, couldn\u2019t concentrate, and constantly felt anxious.<\/p>\n

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One night, I signed up on a dating app called Meetic<\/strong>. At the time, I thought it was a good idea, but I quickly lost interest. Sure, I had to verify my profile with a blue tick to prove I was a real person, but beyond that, there was no other oversight from the site\u2019s operators. Many people messaged me from Iran, Asia, and Africa, and I didn\u2019t really want to talk to anyone. I was just about to delete the app when “Dilan”<\/strong> appeared. He was the first person who was kind and genuinely interested. He didn\u2019t immediately ask for sexual pictures, didn\u2019t speak vulgarly, and was supposedly close by… although now I know he could have been on another continent, not even remotely close. I told him I was surprised at how normal he seemed and that I was thinking of deleting the app because it kept buzzing, and I didn\u2019t see the point of staying on. He asked for my WhatsApp number, and I saw no reason why we shouldn\u2019t continue our conversation there.<\/p>\n

He couldn\u2019t have known that my mental health was at rock bottom, and his daily question, \u201cHave you eaten today?<\/em>\u201d helped me a lot. He often talked about how important it was for me to eat, especially since I had a child, and that if my body was well, my soul would also heal. He even asked me to send him photos of the food I was eating, to make sure I was actually eating. Over time, this faded. We talked about everything. Then, after about a month, he asked if I\u2019d be interested in learning about cryptocurrency<\/strong><\/a> investments. I thought, if he can do it\u2014and I was receiving photos from him daily\u2014why shouldn\u2019t I learn it too? I had significant concerns about my financial security, so I approached it with an open mind. For a long time, I didn\u2019t want to transfer money, but then the system couldn\u2019t handle that I didn\u2019t live where I was a citizen. There were many signs that I shouldn\u2019t proceed… but eventually, we went ahead, and I watched us make a lot of money in 30 seconds. Everything was documented step by step.<\/p>\n

I trusted the two-step verification, and I never gave out any passwords, so I tried to approach this project cautiously. I can\u2019t disclose further details due to the ongoing investigation, but in December, our person vanished in an instant and could not be reached. By then, I already sensed that this was going to be trouble.<\/p>\n

The money, or rather the wallet, disappeared.<\/strong><\/p>\n

When I realized that I had been scammed, I was very upset and extremely ashamed of myself. I told my ex, who, thankfully, just said: “Calm down, it’s just money!<\/em>” He was right, but I had such a panic attack that I sat there crying, wondering how I could have been so foolish. I couldn\u2019t calm down, even though we talked about it for days. Then I started to think and wrote Dilan the pledge that led to the creation of this website:<\/p>\n

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“Maybe I\u2019m just one woman among many that you\u2019ve scammed,
\n<\/strong>but that one woman is a very good marketer.
\nI promise that I will tell everyone what happened,
\nwhich means I will make you famous!”<\/strong><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

In January 2024<\/strong>, I went to the local authorities and, after thorough research, I filed a report. The police officer was the second reason for this website, as he mentioned that practically every day there is someone who has been deceived and scammed in a similar way, but I was very lucky because I really \u201conly\u201d lost my money\u2014something we will return to later!<\/p>\n

Then, with the Swiss report in hand, I also filed a complaint on the FBI\u2019s Internet Crime Complaint Center (IC3)<\/strong> and with every organization dealing with cryptocurrency fraud.<\/p>\n

After that, I started putting together my website, first in Hungarian, then in German and English, and finally in French and Spanish.<\/p>\n

But just when I thought I was over it, a month later, \u201cDilan\u201d started writing to me again as if nothing had happened. At first, he wrote that his WhatsApp had been stolen, which is why he couldn’t reach out, and then he eventually said that he was writing from Asia, very young, and that we could meet if I sent him money, as he could then free himself from his nasty evil boss… that was when I blocked him for good!<\/p>\n

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I also reported this turn of events to the local authorities, who requested that I immediately block him everywhere so he wouldn\u2019t be able to write.<\/p>\n

To add to the intrigue, four months passed when suddenly someone started making purchases online from my card<\/strong> in the PlayStation store\u2026 fortunately, the bank blocked the card and I also got the amount refunded\u2026 interesting, right? Coincidence? I don\u2019t think so.<\/p>\n

In Switzerland, they couldn’t continue dealing with the case, so it didn’t reach the prosecutor’s or investigative stage, but they kept the file open because many similar cases had occurred, leaving a tiny hope that maybe something might happen one day! But then I realized that AI\u00a0was<\/strong> what they used, so it probably won\u2019t be followed up\u2026 either! Since currently AI is not regulated, and the nasty bad hackers exploit this perfectly, of course, with respect to the exceptions.<\/p>\n

Surprisingly, I owe a lot to \u201cDilan<\/em>\u201d or the AI because it pulled me out of that certain pit during my deepest moment.<\/strong><\/p>\n

However, I really regret that the truth\/fraud didn\u2019t come to light sooner, because it took nearly three months during which I experienced both hell and heaven. Nonetheless, thanks to this, I created the website, started talking to others, and they shared their stories because if we take a strong average, then out of 10 people, 6 have already been scammed online!<\/strong><\/p>\n

To be continued!
\nAda<\/p>\n<\/div>

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When the trouble has happened and you have already realized that you were deceived, what is the most important thing you need to do?<\/h4>\n<\/div>
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    Report to the police and initiate an investigation.<\/strong> The first step is for the victim to immediately report the incident to the local police! Provide all relevant information and evidence to assist in the investigation. Evidence may include conversations, photos, and phone numbers. In cases of online fraud, timing is often critical, so the sooner the case is reported, the greater the chance of effective measures being taken.<\/p>\n<\/div><\/li>

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    Contacting Financial Institution<\/strong> Notify relevant financial institutions even if the bank itself is not involved (such as banks, credit card companies, etc.) so they are aware of the fraud! If they detect any suspicious financial activity, they will be able to take action. I notified them via email and attached a copy of the police report. In some cases, it may be possible to stop or reverse financial transactions, but this requires prompt action and information.<\/p>\n<\/div><\/li>

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    Seeking Expert Help and Support <\/strong>The victim should consider seeking expert assistance, such as legal advice or cybersecurity expertise, to help navigate any legal and technical issues. Additionally, it is important to seek emotional support from family members, friends, or even professionals to ease the distress and overcome the trauma caused by the fraud and emotional disappointment.<\/p>\n<\/div><\/li><\/ul>

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    Caution with Online Acquaintances and Investments<\/strong><\/h5><\/div>

    Based on my experience, caution is extremely important in online dating and financial transactions! While digital connections can have positive aspects, it is always important to maintain critical thinking and not ignore your intuition. Especially if someone offers a business opportunity that seems too good to be true, always verify the information and ensure the other party’s credibility before any financial transactions take place. But it\u2019s best to meet in person. If that doesn\u2019t happen, let it go and block them everywhere! <\/strong><\/p>\n<\/div><\/div><\/div>

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    Openness and Seeking Support During Difficult Times<\/strong><\/h5><\/div>

    From my story, it can be understood that it is important to show openness and seek help during difficult times! Isolation and loneliness during tough periods can cause severe stress and physical and emotional strain. Seeking emotional support from family members, friends, or professionals can help maintain emotional well-being and ease navigating through the tougher moments in life.<\/p>\n<\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div>

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